When you go through a major event in your life, you expect certain people to be there. Good or bad. You just know “this” person or “that” person is going to be there. No questions asked. When there not, you can’t help but to be disappointed and hurt.
We’re experiencing that right now. Out of everybody, you’re not here for us, you haven’t called, you haven’t tried to help or ask how you can help. You haven’t shown up?? We get it, we know life is busy. We know you have your own family to take care of. We know! We also know that if you want to make time, you will. We have been going through this cancer battle for six months now. You haven’t had a few free hours to visit Lyris or call? Apparently, we’re not that important to you. But, what if it was you going through this crisis and not us? How would you feel? Stop, seriously, stop and ask yourself, “What if that was me”, What if that was my son? What if that was my daughter? What if this was my life?
Some of you may be wondering “Who are they referring to?” Are they talking about me? Maybe? “You” refers to a those people who claim to be “family” and “friends”. What would it take to get you to show up? We’re six months in and you haven’t had time yet?? When will you MAKE time. Most people make time when it’s time for a funeral. We don’t want that. Lyris loves visitors when she’s in the hospital! She always ask, “Is anyone going to come see me today? You don’t have to come bearing gifts. She has plenty of stuff. She just wants someone other than mommy and daddy all the time. She wants to feel normal. She wants someone to sit and play Candyland, cards, draw pictures, do crafts with her. Lyris likes to receive telephone calls while she’s in the hospital. Simple things.
I don’t mean to come across rude or anything but this is hard, very hard and we’re hurting. Thank you to all of the strangers and acquaintances that have shown up without hesitation. Thanks to those of you that have made meals or purchased meals for us. We really appreciate it! Thank you to the “Dance Moms” who stepped up and made it happen! We love you ladies!!!! Thank you to the friends that we haven’t spoken to in a while that have been there 500%. Thank you to the friends and family that go out of their way to sit at the hospital with Lyris or pick up JD or watch JD for us while we’re at the hospital. Thanks to the ladies that said “I can at least pay a bill for you”. They didn’t have to, but that was their way of helping. We appreciate all of you so very much!! Thanks for showing up!
May you all find peace in dealing with this… It’s hard but you’re all doing it. Luv ya!!!
You may not know me but I was told about your site and the situation you are currently facing at this time. Just reading your stories and seeing how you are able to make through each rough day with a smile, is truly a wonderful trait that you need to continue to share with the world. Don’t ever let any moment get you down and stand strong during the tough times as they will get better as long as you continue to believe. I wish you the best during all this and will be praying for you during these hard times.
Thank you Mark! I’m just reading this… It’s amazing how people cross paths in life. You words mean a lot & I know from our telephone calls that you & your family have witnessed 1st hand how cancer can affect people. Again thank you for taking the time to visit & comment, we’ll talk soon.